Today, I am celebrating two months of being in a relationship with the most awesome girl in the world. A bunch of people have been asking about how we first met, and I think I should write about it. My blog needs a new entry anyway. Hahaha. This is our story. If you’re not the cheesy, sappy type of person, fair warning: CAUTION KINDA CHEESY UP AHEAD. Sorry medyo mahaba.
WHEN “TO MY SOON TO BAE” GOT REDUCED TO JUST “TO MY BAE”
Chapter 1 – How we met.
When I changed my facebook status to “in a relationship”, a bunch of people were curious as to what happened. Who she is, how I met her, what lead to the change in relationship status, etc. This is the story. At least from my point of view.
I met her randomly, without plan. It was January 20, 2016. 519 days or 12,456 hours after I turned single. Almost two years.
It was at an event. The Sud x Words Anonymous Album launch. Route 196 was the venue. I was playing host to an insane crowd of 400 plus sweaty people jumping and dancing and singing to Sud and WA’s awesome set. I was having so much fun! After the bands had played and the poets had spoken, it was DJ Jessica Milner’s awesome set of hits comprised of 90’s, 00’s and current hits. It was crazy fun. Some of the people had already left, and the initial Route mob was reduced to a few friends (and little did I know, future friends).
Around past midnight, I saw her.
Simple sling Bag.
Red horse beer in hand.
Accesorized with an insanely cute smile.
I immediate think to myself: “This girl is CUTENESS of the highest order.”
I watch her for a bit as she grooved with the beat. I was grooving too. I remember something. I realized that I had already drank a few beer bottles, so I should be confident enough to approach her. I wait a bit to see when she approaches the bar to get another drink. Not that I was planning to get her a drink. I was sort of waiting around to see if she was with a boyfriend. I didn’t want trouble. All I wanted (and I think this is also what most guys want when they see a pretty girl in a bar), was to know her name (at least most guys I know). She didn’t seem like she was with anyone, so with my liquor induced courage, I approach her. The music was loud, so I scream whisper to her.
My line was:
“Hey, ang ganda ng music noh?”
She nods in approval, and I see her smile. I semi awkwardly danced beside her (not with her or to her). Few moments later, I extend my quivering hand, a bit nervous, a bit excited, actually a bunch of mixed feelings. I guess I already knew this girl was beyond ordinary. “I’m Apags pala.”
“Elise.” she receives my shaking shaky hand.
I bump her Red Horse with my almost finished San Mig Light Bottle. I think to myself, “Elise. Pretty name. An even prettier smile.” I turn around and leave. Might say something silly. Good move. Walk away. Pa mysterious. Pa cool. Swabe moves.
Joke. IT WAS NONE OF THOSE THINGS.
SOBRANG HINDI SWABE. Overly kinabahan lang. I WAS SO SCARED TO SAY SOMETHING TURNOFFING. Was thinking to myself that with a face and smile like that, FOR SURE, MAY BOYFRIEND YAN.
I spend the rest of the night not minding her. I was actually kinda flirting with someone else then, too. So no biggie. But I remember going home that night thinking about her smile. and that made me smile.
Chapter 2 – When the meeting became friends.
During that night, I posted a picture on my instagram about the event. Little did I know that that post would lead to something else much greater.
A few days later, the band Sud reposts one of my pictures. I see a like.
“_elisegarcia liked your photo”
Click on username. HOLY LORD JESUS CHRIST. ITS THE GIRL WITH THE FANTASTIC SMILE WHO DRINKS RED HORSE BECAUSE SHE’S COOL AND MAANGAS.
It was time for Operation “CRUSH KITA KAYA I-AADD KITA SA FACEBOOK PARA MAKITA KO KUNG MAY BOYFRIEND KA KASI CRUSH KITA GIRL.”
Open Facebook. Check her profile. No relationship status. Check recent pics both on IG and FB. No recent boy sighted.
ADD ON FACEBOOK. GIVE ME ACCESS TO YOUR PICTURES MY CRUSH. YES. YOU DO NOT KNOW ME. I AM WATCHING YOU NOW. PLEASE LORD SANA I-ACCEPT NIYA.
“You and Elise are now friends.”
Stalk stalk stalk stalk stalk. CRUSH CRUSH CRUSH CRUSH OMG CRUSH KITA TALAGA PHYSICALLY AND PERSONALITY WISE.
I almost talk to her, but then again I held back.
Subtext: DON’T CHAT WITH HER. BAKA MAY BOYFRIEND, HINDI LANG NAKALAGAY SA SOCIAL MEDIA NIYA.
Oh, she likes the beach. Oh she cooks. Oh she’s (insert bunch of other inferences about her personality because I’m too shy to talk to her pa).
MAN I AM SO STRESSED CRUSH. I need to unwind. Need to get my mind off of this.
Swipe left. Swipe Left. Swipe Right. HOLY LORD JESUS YOU ARE ON TINDER, MY CRUSH.
It was at that point I thought to myself: SINGLE KA NGA.
SWIPE RIGHT WITH A LITTLE PRAYER.
“You matched with Elise.”
LORD GOD ALMIGHTY I LOVE YOU.
It was time for operation “PWEDE NA KITANG I CHAT PAREHO TAYONG SINGLE EH.”
“Hey! it’s weird, I met you na in person and we’re facebook friends, before we matched here. Usually it’s the other way around diba? Haha.”
“Haha yeah,” she replies.
“Usap nalang tayo sa facebook. I rarely open this app (this is true though, I rarely opened tinder na noon.”
And we started chatting. First we chatted about the usual stuff, work, common friends, and then about more personal stuff, like stuff we enjoyed, 90’s kids moments. I remember, while I was chatting with her, I would feel sleepy because late na, but I never wanted to stop, because she was so much fun to talk to. It was crazy how I had so much in common with this person. Felt like I’ve known her all my life.
A couple of days of chatting like that, and I was pretty much hooked on her.
HOUSTON, WE HAVE A PROBLEM. CRUSH HAS NOW TRANSFORMED INTO “LIKE”.
Chapter 3 – The first semi date.
It was a whirlwind week: Seeing her smile, awkward dancing with her, adding her on social media, and chatting with her.
It was a Thursday. We were chatting as usual. She mentions that she was gonna go to a gig the following night. A music video launch for Jensen and the flips. She asked if I was gonna go. I said I didn’t know about the gig. She didn’t ask me to go, but I said I’d drop by anyway.
Friday. I was asking my friends if they wanted to go to the gig. Sa Saguijo. Hassle. Sa Ortigas kami nag-wowork. Traffic. Mahal Uber. Hirap pa ng parking.
LORD I WANNA GO PERO WALA AKONG KASAMA. ANONG GAGAWIN KO OMG. SHET SHET SHET EXPLETIVES. I WANNA SEE MY CRUSH.
You know what I did? I went anyway. I commuted via shuttle to Saguijo alone. I wanted to see her. And if she was with other friends (guys), I would just leave after. But I wanted to see if our chats could be as fun in real life. Just to check, really. I didn’t know what was gonna happen.
I ended up spending the whole event just talking to her and getting to know her. Man, this girl is really above and beyond my impressions of her. She is just a pleasant surprise. I even got to meet some of her friends, and they were really fun and cool. We went to her friends apartment, and we talked some more.
I ended up that night bringing her to her house thru uber. She was a bit sleepy already, so she leaned on my shoulder. Her hair smells really good. Left hook to arm around her shoulder.
She leans closer.
I hold her hand. Yung serious na holding hands ah. Yung may interlocking fingers. Hindi yung parang pang our father sa church. Yung pang “May nararamdaman ako para sa iyo.”
She interlocks her fingers, too.
Chapter 5 – Nung naging kami.
We spend the next few days always seeing each other. Having lunch, or dinner, or drinks, or something. I had already confessed my feelings for her, and hse felt the same way.
I was scared. Things were going too fast. But then, I realized that it was ok. We were both taking risks. But there was something there. And the thing about grownups is that, we might have the same fears as young people when it comes to relationships, but based on our experiences, we have a different kind of courage in facing them. Yes, we dated for two weeks before we got together. Hindi matagal, people will say, But I don’t care. We don’t care what you think. We’re cool like that.
I told her, I don’t know what I did good for me to meet someone as perfect as her. I don’t know if I deserve her. I don’t know why we met the way we did, and why we fell for each other similarly. But I’m glad we did. There has to be a reason why we only met now, why we met like this, and why we feel this way about each other. Maybe it was fate. Maybe it’s all luck. But I wanna keep doing this thing with you.
On my birthday (Feb 11), I wanted to spend time with her. But she was out of town. We did have a salubong though. So I was kinda sad.
On Valentines Day, she was still away. I woke up early to message her. But that morning, my facebook wall was so full of couple pics, and I got so annoyed! Annoyed at the fact that I couldn’t spend the day with the person who I wanted to be my Valentine.
So I drove to her. God, I was just so annoyed. So I surprised her. I just went there to have lunch with her. Then I went home. It was at that point, I knew I was in love with this girl. I was happy I did that. Even if initially I thought it was out of annoyance, I ended up realizing that I did it nga because I loved her.
I loved her na. I knew I wanted to be with her, and her alone. No point in playing games, keeping it in, or whatever.
February 20. We were hanging out in my house. We were talking. This is the conversation.
“Alam mo, mahal na kita, ” I said.
“Mahal na rin kita,” she replies
“Tara, maging tayo na, ” I reply.
“Sige. Tara. Tayo na,” she ends.
Walang drama, walang arte. Usapang masinsinan lang.
We decide right then and there to commit to each other. I know it’s not as romantic as big proposals, or whatever. But it worked for us. And we got together. And my life has been so much more.
Two months of being with someone who makes me such a better person, I wish everyone can experience this in some form. You know how awful and tragic my 2015 was, and I don’t know if this little story of mine gives you guys hope. But I hope it does.
A saying goes “When you’re going through hell, Just keep walking.” Johnnie Walker ad ba ito. Anyway. My point is, things do work themselves out. I thought they wouldn’t for me, but I’ve never been happier to be wrong.
There is someone out there who will make us so happy. Someone who will hug us until all the wounds of yesterday start getting healed. Someone who will hold us until all the broken parts of us glue themselves back together. Someone who will remind us that we are meant to be loved. For me, it’s Elise.
I’m really happy being with her.
You know how much I love you, babe. Chamba nga siguro how we met, especially the timing. But from this day forth, I will love you with all my heart. And that decision to love you everyday and to try and be the best person I can be for you, well, hindi na yon chamba.